Sunday, June 18, 2017

A Marriage After Thousand Delays

It's been two months that we got married. I can't believe that! Time flies in a blink of an eye. In these two months, I totally forgot all the pain, hardship and difficulties that both of us faced. Our marriage got delayed so many times that everyone around us began to thought that it would never happen. But, I and Sif kept on holding tight and kept on trying to get united.

First of all, there were financial issues. As we both were young and were struggling in our lives, we had limited budget for everything. I so wanted to start my life with him by moving in with him and shifting to Australia (he used to live there), but this was not easy for us financially. We needed to have a mammoth amount of money for filing visa, buying my ticket, getting a house on rent for us and for other expenditures and all of this didn't seem possible keeping his tuition fees in consideration (he was studying). But, both of us worked really hard. He used to study and do multiple jobs in a day to save some money so that he can call me there and I used to do two different jobs.

When we accumulated some money, we filed my visa so that I can fly to him and start our lives together. After waiting for several months, I got my visa. As soon as I got my visa, my boy lost all his jobs and it again brought us in financial distress, which made us to postpone our plan of me moving in with him. After some time, when we again began to consider the option of me moving to him, some unforeseen family issues made us to postpone this again and my boy had to come to Pakistan. Meanwhile, my visa expired and we couldn't file it again. As soon as my boy went back to Australia, we thought to let go of the idea of me getting temporary visa and preferred applying for my PR. We started the documentation and filed the visa, but Australian immigration deferred my visa. I and my boy then waited for two freaking years. These were indeed the most toughest years in our relationship.

After that my boy decided to come to Pakistan and have our proper rukhsati done. We started planning for our wedding, but my mom fell seriously ill. It made me confused what to do. As I am the only female member in my homy after mom, I was taking care of everything from mom's health to kitchen to laundry. I was not up for our wedding leaving my family in trouble. More than anything, I was worried about my mom. But, everyone at my homy wanted me to get married, moved in with boy and start our life. My boy also assured me that we both would do everything to take care of my mom. My brother also flew back to homy from America to take care of my mom. My mom also wanted me to get settled and said it would make her more happy than me delaying the marriage and staying with her. Seeing all this, I agreed on getting married. In the end of February, my boy's parents came to my place and we decided 19th April to be our date.

I was excited, happy but was worried too. I actually couldn't believe that it's finally happening. I had a fear deep down in my heart that something would still delay our wedding. I was afraid but kept on preparing for the wedding. We booked the venues, bought dresses and was busy in other preparations. When exactly a month was left in our wedding, my boy's grandfather passed away. This death was so sudden and everyone was shocked. This of course meant delay of the wedding, but as we have booked our venues and have paid them half of the amount, which was non refundable, so we had to go for it. It disturbed everything. We stopped wedding preparations for two weeks as we were all in shock. To pay respect to the deceased soul, we cancelled our mehndi function. 

After all these delays, I and Sif finally got married on 18th of April. It was indeed the most happiest days for both of us. I am so grateful that he is mine now forever!     

7 comments:

  1. May both of you get all the happiness in the world. Have a great married life :)

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  2. This was heart warming. Finally a HAPPY ENDING! May Allah shower his countless blessings upon you both!
    Stay blessed!

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    1. I wish you had come, but I know you were busy in papers. Thank you so much!

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  3. But finally now you got married MashaAllah, may Allah bless you both and shower His Blessings on both of you, Ameen.
    Btw how's your mom now?

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    1. Yes finally! Thanks for your wishes :) God bless you too!

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  4. I didn't know any of it. Glad you guys are together. I think problems and issues are here. Sometimes on daily bases. We better face them instead of hiding or being scared. You Go girl !Love you

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